Back in Town

I’m back from my bereavement leave. My work contract allows 5 days plus 3 travel for an immediate family member, which includes a Grandma. It allows nothing for aunts or uncles, and only one day for a sister or brother in-law. Crazy.

I’m so grateful that Jeff wanted to come with me. I’m a million more times grateful that he was able to meet my Grandma in August. When I was single throughout my 20′s, I was always so scared that I wouldn’t meet someone until after my Grandparents were gone. Even though it wasn’t a long visit, Grandma was able to meet him and give her thumbs up. That means the world to me because I loved and respected her so much.

In order to cope with the weekend, I pretty much made myself delay all grieving until I got back home. I know.. I’m weird sometimes. Of course I cracked a few times, when I went to see Grandma at the funeral home, and when I had to walk up the church isle with a flower display, then a carnation for her, and then when I put the carnation on her casket in the cemetery, during a few of the speeches for her, but mostly I put it off. I guess I’m a grieve-in-private kind of person. Tonight I had to update Verkley.com with her passing. I wrote it a couple dozen times, erasing everything I wrote until I just couldn’t do it anymore and left it as is. I write better on my personal blog rather than trying to represent her entire family.

I had to drop Jeff off at the Toronto Airport so he was able to catch up with his flight to Calgary for his training this week. I had to drive all the way back up here driving his big truck. It was really hard to not totally blur over in tears, but I made it back. It was a very long and exhausting drive.

I’ll forever miss my Grandma, but I’m so so so lucky to have had her until I was thirty years old! Being the oldest grandchild has its perks!

I’m grateful she didn’t have to suffer too long. She would never have wanted to be old and sick or reliant on others for everything.

I’m grateful that she was able to travel to Holland this past summer to visit her family and friends.

I’m grateful that her sister-in-law and daughters came just a few short weeks ago and surprised her for a visit.

In a way I’m grateful for Grandpa’s Alzheimer’s so that he doesn’t have to feel the full loss of his sweetheart.

I’m grateful I had a big box of Kleenex here on my desk.

My Grandma Died

My Grandma died today.

It seems all so sudden, like she didn’t even get old yet – even though she was in her 80′s – to me she was still that hip cool Grandma I always loved to brag about.

She had to have surgery last Friday on her intestines. They had been giving her trouble and it turned out she had a bunch of old food getting caught on old scar tissue. They took out 2 feet of her intestine. The surgery went well. She had no cancer or anything. But she didn’t wake up and didn’t recover. Today her children were called to the hospital and made the decision to turn off the ventilator and let her go.

I don’t think I’ve let it sink in yet. I never thought she’d die before Grandpa. His Alzheimer’s has gotten worse so he doesn’t even know that his sweetheart is gone. They were always so in love, always holding hands and twinkling eyes at each other.

She was always so special to me. I had to answer a survey a couple of years ago about who was my hero. Other people picked famous people, but I picked my Grandma. She lived through so much. She lived through the war in Holland with bomb casings falling on her roof. She moved to Canada with her new husband to start a new life. She didn’t know any English. Within the next 13 years she had 11 children!

She was always so funny because I’m sure she must have learned English from her children and maybe the TV. She knew all the slang words and I can hear her in my head right now saying “Holy Cow!”. She’d always talk back to the TV and the soaps or the politicians.

I’d love spending time at their house. After we moved over an hour away, we’d still visit lots and I’d get to spend time there in the summer. She knew I loved her macaroni and beef and cheese so she’d make it often. She always had food treats – licorice and pop and fruit punch and cheesies. She’d always try to be fashionable too. She knew the latest cool things and I remember when she’d bundle a long shirt to the side to put a big plastic button there to tie it up. She’d have so many clothes, some she’d never even worn yet. She gave me many neat shirts.

She’d always try to find our names on things. All the Grandkids would get personalized combs and pencils and barrettes and pens and toothbrushes. She’d still always remember my birthday and make sure I got a card and a little something. After all, I was her number one grandkid!

She made the cutest card for me after Winger died. It was hand made and cut out individual letters and dog pictures saying she was sorry to hear about my dog. I have it saved in my memory box.

I’d like to think of Grandma in some special part of heaven. She’s out by the pond feeding her ducks and swans. It’s summer and the sun in shining. Maybe there are even two Golden Retrievers hanging out with her. That would be nice.

Many Years Ago – This is Grandma. I’m on the right, Brian is on the left, and Amy is the little one.

Jeff and I went to Paradise

Paradise, Michigan that is!

I’ve had a long week of the blues. Just grumpy and irritated. I want to sell my house and move!

Then my great-uncle Harold died. He was always a happy go lucky man who was important to my mom. Then my Grandma V. had to have emergency surgery. They repaired her intestine by removing a couple of feet of it. The surgery went fine but she just isn’t recovering well. She is sedated and is on a ventilator still. She is the head of the V. family and has always been one of my favourite people on earth. It would be so crazy to lose her so quick and all of a sudden.

So yesterday I really needed to get out of town. It feels like I leave town only about 3 times a year and I just go so stir crazy here. I had always been interested in the Edmund Fitzgerald ship that sunk in Lake Superior in 1975, and I had heard that its bell was in a shipwreck museum in Michigan. I searched online and found the Great Lakes Shipwreck Museum so we decided to go.

Whitefish Point Shipwreck Museum

The museum was north of Paradise, Michigan on Whitefish Point. It was about an hour and twenty minutes from the Sault. We just travelled south over the border into Michigan and then we travelled west along the coast of Lake Superior. We could see the windfarm here in Ontario across the water.

Windfarm west of Sault Ste. Marie

There are several buildings at the museum. There was the main museum building that had all the displays and artifacts from shipwrecks. Then there was a couple gift shops. There was the original lighthouse and lighthouse keeper quarters. In fact it’s the oldest active lighthouse on Lake Superior. There was the brick fog horn building. There was the surfboat house where the big rescue boat was stationed where there was tributes to the surfmen who rescued people from the lake. There was also the coast guard building where the surfmen resided.

There were many shipwrecks at that part of the Great Lakes. There used to be thousands of boats navigating the Lakes rather than just the few that do today. I was surprised to read about so many shipwrecks that were caused just by boats colliding!

The lighthouse keepers were paid about $600 a year from the 1880′s through to the 1930′s. They got supplies brought to them there by boat a couple times a year. They had to tend to the lighthouse every 2 hours and 18 minutes, 24 hours a day, to wind the mechanism that kept the light rotating! For that reason, there was usually two lighthouse keeper families. Their residence was split in half like a duplex. One man was the lighthouse keeper for from 1903 until 1931, raising his 3 children there, and then his granddaughter. His name was Robert Carlson. One time the other lighthouse keeper with him turned out to be a German spy!! They had planted him there to fiddle with the lighthouse beacons and cause mischief. The main lighthouse keeper man figured him out and summoned the authorities to come and take him away! Here is Robert Carlson in his office where he was updating the logbook:

Light House Keeper

Creepy eh? They did wax? statues of people that were seriously creeping me out. They were so real I kept thinking they were about to move. I just couldn’t bring myself to take photos of the wax kids because they belonged in a horror film. Here’s more:

Robert Carlson, Lightkeeper

The life of the lighthouse keeper, and especially of their wives and children, was horribly lonely. Robert Carlson’s wive wrote some of her story here: http://www.nps.gov/archive/apis/heroine.htm
Back then I imagine the surfmen weren’t there yet. I think they started in the 1930′s?

Here are a couple of natives that were in the display in the museum. I’ll spare you the close up shots – they are freaky.

Early History Display

The lighthouse is still operating. We could look up the steep dark spiral staircase, but we couldn’t go up. Not that I would have wanted to. Luckily it was attached to the upstairs of their house so they didn’t have to go outside. However back when it used oil, they had to keep the oil far away from the house and the lighthouse for safety reasons, so they’d still have to go outside for fuel.

Whitefish Point Lighthouse

The lighthouse is still in operation

We got to see the bell of the Edmund Fitzgerald. They played Gordon Lightfoot’s “The Wreck of the Edmund Fitzgerald” in the museum every 15 minutes or so. Here is a photo of a light preserver from the Edmund Fitzgerald:

Edmund Fitzgerald life preserver and other items from the boat

My photos of the bell didn’t turn out so good because it was dark and it was in a protective case so the flash kicked back into the photo.

Overall, I highly recommend the Whitefish Point Shipwreck Museum as a tourist stop. The drive to get there was beautiful too.

Afterwards, we went to another close by site seeing stop – a 125 year old cranberry farm! I’ve always been intrigued by photos of the cranberry harvest and the brochures said they harvested there in mid October and gave tours. Unfortunately they had a drought this year and the harvest was over. Not only that, but they were out of cranberries to sell to visitors! They did have a gift shop though, that was in a 100 year old wrickety shack that was the old post office there. We bought a few cranberry souvenirs. Yum yum!

Another comment on American cuisine. We stopped at a little hick town grocery store in Paradise to make our own lunch. We bought whole wheat bread and peanut butter for sandwiches. Back in the truck we realized that they were both loaded with SUGAR! Who needs tons of sugar in whole wheat bread and/or peanut butter!?! We ate our sandwiches and pitched the rest of the peanut butter jar and bag of bread.

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Just so you know, you’ll need to sign in to leave comments now on my blog. Just do the simple registration over near the bottom of the right sidebar. I just was sick to death of the spammers leaving spam comments on my personal blog. Maybe this will stop them from leaving porn links on grieving over lost dog posts.

Trailer Park Boys

Trailer Park Boys MovieWe went to see the Trailer Park Boys movie last night!

I liked it. It was true to the show – no silly Hollywood cameos or anything. They even purposely shot it in lower budget film so it stayed true to the TV / Trailer Park look.

It’s full of good ol’ Trailer Park swearing, hookers, boobs, cats, liquor, theft, and jail. If that is your type of amusement, then you should go support the Canadian Film Industry and go see it! Many of the songs on the soundtrack were Tragically Hip classics. Great touch!

I give it a 4.5 out of 5.

You can watch the movie trailer by clicking below:

Toronto

Hey Locals, is this really how you say it???

“As the largest Canadian city — and fifth largest in North America — Toronto (pronounced Toro-know by locals) is nestled along Lake Ontario and boasts a varied culinary scene that includes the rich flavors of more than 90 ethnic groups.”

From: Get a taste of Toronto (CNN – Travel)

Football !!

Looks like I’m going to my first football game!

Dad got 7 tickets for the bunch of us to go see the Buffalo Bills play the Tennessee Titans in Buffalo on December 24th at 1pm. Exciting! I hope it won’t be too cold!

Leanne bragged to me that she had free Raptors tickets last night. I need to live closer so I can mooch when she has such glorious bragging rights. Basketball is my FAVOURITE sport and I need to go watch a game some day. Unfortunately Jeff hates basketball. But he said he still go with me. Once. :D

Anyway back to football – none of our teams is Buffalo or Tennessee so I don’t know how we choose who to cheer for. Julie and Jeff think I’d get beat up if I wore a pink Denver hat. Hmmmmm….. Do they wear big fingers at football games? Do I have to start watching it on TV to find out how it all works? hehehe. I’m excited! :p

P.S. – There was a bit of snow on surfaces outside when I went to work! I slept through the first snow fall!

YouTube

Okay I’m starting to use my YouTube account. I updated a post two back with Monty’s video. It’s quicker to download (YouTube converts it, makes it smaller (and fuzzier)) but now more people can see it. Within 2 minutes of uploading that last one, 49 people had viewed it, one person commented, and it was rated a 2/5!

I just uploaded one of Monty when he was a new puppy:

Ignore all those beer cases :oops: it was a tough year last year.

I’ll see what else I can find… as I sit here trying to keep myself busy… Jeff is coming home tonight!

Contract Extension

I just signed a contract extension this morning. My contract is now extended until February 6th, 2007.

If I move before then, my boss is agreeable to me working via telework with my own computer at home.

That means I’ll be the big increment my position is eligible for at Christmas. I love raises :D

Happy Thanksgiving!

Happy Thanksgiving to all my loyal blog readers!

I could write a big list of all that I am thankful for, but it might get to mushy. hehe

My Thanksgiving Dinner

I had a fantabulous dinner this evening. I cooked up a ham in pineapple, with some wild rice, and carrots, and a delicious salad with broccoli, cauliflower, nuts, and red onions. I ate every morsal on my plate, and I was smart enough to make enough to fill every meal between now and when my chef comes back. Okay maybe not every meal, I already had breakfast covered :)

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I got lucky

I won two free exhibition passes to the Affiliate Summit in Los Vegas in January. It’s a big conference for webmaster affiliate folks like myself. I’d really like to go, so I took advantage of a contest and won two passes. They are the half passes though, access to everything except the intense seminars and the meals. I believe they have a value of $300 each. So we’d still have to pay for the flights and hotels and food. I don’t know if we’ll have enough available cash for that assuming we’ve just bought a house by January, but we’ll see! I’ve never been to Vegas, I’d love to go!

Monty goes fishing

So Monty found a new way this weekend to pass the time. He watches the cory catfish in my aquarium! I took a video. I uploaded it to YouTube so it’s not so big (fuzzier though..):

Close to Furnace Time

I’m about to cave and turn on the furnace. I’ve been so cold all day. The forecast looks like it’ll be on before the week is through. And if I’m not mistaken, I think I see FLURRIES in the forecast!
Sault Ste. Marie weather forecast

Back to work

Back to work tomorrow. And it’s only a four day week. Weee ha! Hopefully this week will bring me a house buyer. All my leaves are falling and I’ve always said this house would be so much more difficult to sell when the leaves are gone :’( But I’m not giving up hope of us living in our new house before Christmas!